You have done well. (((Rednail))) Not doing anything is also an action. In your case, you didn't fight, you didn't pursue, you didn't take his bait. Knowing when not to do something is a sign of wisdom and strength.
This is more than what I would have done, and will still have done. You don't have to fight him. You are fighting for yourself and if you desire, your marriage.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.