It is letting go of the outcome, doing that which works to achieve your outcome. Its about you. So its fine if WW pays for your son and fine if she doesn't. You are doing that which works for you irrespective of WW, its the right thing. It is as if your emotions were tied to WW like being pulled behind WW emotional speed boat. WW is all over and you are dragged behind. Instead you are now on a surf board with your own destiny.
How would Detachment work in the course of an active divorce lawsuit? My wife just started one, it is definitely going to be a tug of war from both sides. How would I practice Detachment if every decision I make affects WW, and every decision WW makes affects me? Both monetarily and also for custody? These philosophical questions seem so very zen. How do I apply it to real life? For example, if she's fighting with me on who pays for what or parenting decisions in the future, how do I Detach myself from that?
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
