Thanks for chiming in Rednail. When H was on the fence btwn me and OW, at least he was giving me the time of day. I get nothing now. I just want him to initiate, interact. Like, I don't get anything from him. I'm just this person from his past. Db coach always says to not let more than 2 weeks pass before I dip toe in b/c my goal is to get him to initiate communication. But if he doesn't respond, than to go darker for longer. Which is what I'm doing now. Ugh.

Anyone know of any users who's stories mirror mine that I can read for direction or guidance? I feel like most people here at least have some sort of interaction b/c of the kids.


"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."