First time poster-needs advice

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I realized it's been quite some time since I last posted. Not much new is going on with me, but I really feel like I am getting a handle on the process of detaching. It is so very hard, but I feel better about me. Even though I see my H almost every day (between kid exchange and their activities), I am finally feeling like I can take or leave his being there. When he first left, I would be so excited if the kids had some activity so I would get to see him.
I still very much want to work things out with him, but I can see that neither of us was very happy for at least a year leading up to his leaving. Until we can both get to a place of feeling better about ourselves we'll never be able to be better together.
I am still struggling with wanting to just "fix" him so he will come home, but realistically I know that can't happen. So, I will continue to fix me and have hope for the future.