I am pretty new to the board and to db'ing, but I can tell you this: I did the opposite of db'ing for 6 months and it got me nowhere. Well, it got me a H who moved out, filed for D, bought a house and told our two teenage boys that he was proceeding with the divorce.
In the past 3 weeks, I have detached, done a 180 where I am civil to him (no longer raging anger about affair) and my H sent me several kind texts yesterday and we had a family lunch today. Now, I am not sure what that really means - it may mean he just wants to be friendly co-parents. But I do know that detaching has also helped me be a better parent and overall person by GAL'ing and trying to make myself a better me. So, I am hopeful - at this point, do we really have anything else to lose?
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
