I Think it's Way Too Late

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Ok, I think the assistant thing has been beat to death. I would sure like to know how people here handled a friend/relative/employee that is acting on behalf of their WAS. I can't be the only one dealing with this.

What's funny is, I made a total #$S of myself protecting her on more than one occasion, and in fact alienated myself from a few of the W's relatives when I stood up for her, the W and myself to a lesser degree. No good deed goes unpunished. but here I am doing what I said I wouldn't!

So here's the thing.

As I mentioned earlier, I've wanted to do this art piece for a charity function that happens every year. It's a blind auction. All pieces are on identical sized canvas. No names show, we sign the back of the canvas.

Very famous artists, and I mean very famous (unless you've lived under a rock for the 20th and 21st century) participate, as well as just kids, and everyone in between. It's really a neat thing for a great cause.

It's been fantastic therapy. Whether or not I can bring myself to attend is something I guess I'll need to deal with when the time comes in early spring. But to concentrate on something for a few days has been great. Plus, I can "go away" and still keep an eye on my Mother, a double blessing.

So today, I went to the website to see if they've started a roster of attendees yet - they do every year. They'll also put up a few pieces that have arrived early, which I like to see.

Holy smokes, GD if there's not a picture about 3 down of me and the W, thanking us for our years of art and contributions.

(!?!?) Ugh.

Now, I emailed the guy who does this stuff weeks ago, saying I wouldn't be able to contribute this year, told him we're splitting - the W found somebody else and I wouldn't be able to bear being there. Sorry. (but he'd be happy to get a canvas before the deadline). If you missed it earlier in the thread, the W said I would contribute - literally as she was filing for D. She knew it would be tough for me if not impossible.

So now, I've got this gigantic picture of us and there's no way the W is going to miss it. She's out of town right now and probably hasn't seen it, but she'll be back Wednesday.

Ok - is this like pursuing only somebody else is doing it for me? I have a feeling he thinks he's doing me a favor, or us. There's almost no reason to have us up there, next to some pretty well known celebrities.

Should I ask him nicely to remove it? Do you think this will tick off the W? I kind of think it will especially after reading Sandi's thoughts - in her state of mind I could see her thinking I had something to do with it.

At the same time in my pathetic state of mind - well this is something I would have done a few weeks ago or before I read DB. I still kind of hope it touches her, but I also hope I win the lotto.

What do you guys think?

She really is much better friends with the guy who put this up than I am. A "logical and rational" W would think it is what it is - and maybe even reflect on what a great time we had and have had doing this. I think I lost that person a long time ago.

If I do ask to have it removed, I'll need to do it soon as it could take a bit to pull it. I'd appreciate some input as the darnedest things keep happening.