Agree with Thornton. I think the DR book says you could scare him away if you move too fast. Also, my counselor says it may take multiple times to really finalize a break up of an affair. You want to make sure it is completely over before you start reconciling according to the boundaries stated above. Let him have the space he needs. Good luck
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16