Rednail: the high road

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I am not working but working towards working. Right now without a job, daycare, etc I would only get 520$ a month for both kids!!! He does not know this or he would leave asap. He can easily pay 500$ and walk away happy.

Working, daycare, etc made it go to 975$ minimum for 2 kids.

I am going to try to not leave the house. My L said it is tricky and I also called the local police station. BECAUSE it is in his name, and pays everything, and we are separated but not really fully UNLESS I have paperwork saying that I have SOLE access ( like legal papers) then it gets sticky on if he can or can not kick me out OR legally what should happen. The police said see a lawyer but even then it is a legal sticky situation. I also have no say on if the OW can or can not come into the house legally according to the police. His house and he technically lives there(over 75% of his items are there along with his mail and license being to the house.) so unless I have sole access there isnt much I can do.

So I will state I do not want to leave and try to get him to take the kids elsewhere. If it turns into a fight I most likely will have to leave and figure that out. I hope I have the women balls to stand up to him tomorrow. I'm very much scared of a fight with him over this. It is giving me anxiety. I'm not a fighter.

I need to look up ways for him to trigger me. I know he knows emotionally if he makes me feel loved I'm very calm, happy and believe him. Not anymore.

I will try to have my steel time.

My mom had her preist come pray and bless me with holy water right now.

The game changes when he is abusive and you have evidence.

Please ensure you have someone with you tomorrow, do not be with this man alone. OK?

Please be safe. Get the Police involved if you need to and please get an order if you are unsafe.

As part of his work he will know how to restrain prisoners.

And 50% of this house or more may be yours.

Speak to your L.

He is going to get angry any way whatever you do.

V