I am not working but working towards working. Right now without a job, daycare, etc I would only get 520$ a month for both kids!!! He does not know this or he would leave asap. He can easily pay 500$ and walk away happy.
Working, daycare, etc made it go to 975$ minimum for 2 kids.
I am going to try to not leave the house. My L said it is tricky and I also called the local police station. BECAUSE it is in his name, and pays everything, and we are separated but not really fully UNLESS I have paperwork saying that I have SOLE access ( like legal papers) then it gets sticky on if he can or can not kick me out OR legally what should happen. The police said see a lawyer but even then it is a legal sticky situation. I also have no say on if the OW can or can not come into the house legally according to the police. His house and he technically lives there(over 75% of his items are there along with his mail and license being to the house.) so unless I have sole access there isnt much I can do.
So I will state I do not want to leave and try to get him to take the kids elsewhere. If it turns into a fight I most likely will have to leave and figure that out. I hope I have the women balls to stand up to him tomorrow. I'm very much scared of a fight with him over this. It is giving me anxiety. I'm not a fighter.
I need to look up ways for him to trigger me. I know he knows emotionally if he makes me feel loved I'm very calm, happy and believe him. Not anymore.
I will try to have my steel time.
My mom had her preist come pray and bless me with holy water right now.
