Now what/ Take 2

[melweb]

I seriously do not know what I am doing!!

I feel like we are back to the beginning, sort of. Not the ILYBNILY beginning, but feel like he is still fence sitting/cake eating regardless of his declaration that he was not leaving and wanted to save this marriage.

I feel like his OSF have escalated, and even more secretive since that declaration.

I feel like he is pulling back some of his open affection that he was displaying immediately following that declaration.

We have (or had) come pretty far, in that we were having lots of R talks, we are having monthly date nights, regular sex, talk of future, we are going to the gym together, etc...all heading in a great direction. Well, Thursday night, he had a few drinks, and starts saying that "there needs to be passion everyday, he needs to think about me, even at work, that the marriage is questionable." He says he does not want the reconciliation to be just about sex, so he cannot just lay in bed with me to watch tv, and Not want sex.

I was like a deer in the headlights, I'm sure. I nodded, said I understood.

Friday we have date night. It went fine. Ended with sex. I continue to hear lots of I love you's, you look nice.

I seriously do not even know what to say to the man. Thinking I need to back off the 180's. (Is that a thing?) For me, they were lots of compliments, and doing "wifey" stuff, basically pursuing.

Any other ideas? I am kind of at a loss.