The start of my happiness 4

[Tyler12]

I find myself watching interactions on TV or with other people, between other people and noticing faults in communication or actions that are detrimental to healthy relationships. Part of me wants to help point these out, yet it's not really my place to explain to people their actions and the consequences without being asked.
On the other hand i sometimes feel like my involvement would be met with backlash instead of acceptance which deters me from approaching the subject. It's a double edged sword. On one hand unless asked its not my place to help, on the other I fear the reprocussions of my involvement, when I shouldn't fear it as it may not be bad.

Another thought I have been recently juggling in my head is asking myself if I was truly happy with WW. Absolutely we had good times and worked together at times. We created 2 amazing boys that bring me endless joy.
If i reflect harder on the time we were together and look past the happiness and focus on issues I had or we had i then start to question my happiness, my true happiness in the R. From the beginning i realize part of my problem was I always focused on making her happy. Which is normal in the beginning of courtship. You want that person to be happy with you therefore you forego some of your happiness and it is replaced with happiness of seeing them happy. And the other party usually does the same so it washes. However as time progressed I continued on that course, the problem with that is i wasn't as happy anymore and I was always on eggshells to maintain the peace. W was and is a short tempered person, I found it easier to let things be than to argue therefore resentment built between us. The times I did stand up and face the issue head on we're better for us. She didn't want a coward that caved to her every wish. And I didn't want to cave. If I " had a backbone" we would work out the problem and it wouldn't arise again.

We both had issues that contributed to the demise of R, whether she sees her part in it or not is not on me. I cannot show her or point them out. But finding my own issues and addressing them is imperative if I am ever to find inner peace.

I wasn't happy in my R with WW. There were good times for sure. We were strived to find true happiness together tho as our communication was flawed. No matter who in the rest of my life I am with that is my focus. Primarily that my needs and emotions are expressed. secondly that my partners needs and emotions are acknowledged, not fixed by me! As it is not my job to fix what they are feeling. To first acknowledge them and act accordingly.

I want everyone who reads this to know that I would never be in the place in my life I am at if it wasn't for the amazing support that is provided to me and to other people on these forums. Tho I may not post on a lot of forums I read a lot and someone usually has already expressed what my thoughts are. I thank everyone who has and is helping me. And I try my best to help others as I have been helped.
I hope everyone had an amazing weekend full of self love and happiness. And that those feelings continue each and everyday of your journey.