There are varied opinions about how much to "help" the wayward. Financially, is to check with the lawyer. Physical help (such being her errand boy, mover, plumber, auto mechanic, repairman, etc.), I say do not do if she is living separately (especially) and having an affair.......and the same applies emotionally. She doesn't get the best of both men, or both worlds. She has to put her big girl panties on and take care of herself and clean up her own messes. She fired her husband.
When you are reading the book or other advice, be sure you bear in mind which type of W you have, and where in the journey your MR is at the time.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
