Rednail: the high road

[trumpet]

Red, if you've never been a planner, now is the time to do a little.

Gameplan your day. You don't work, right? You need to feel like you have a plan for your day, you need to feel that you are worth it - you TOTALLY are. You are loved. You are awesome. You are caring (thus why you're so hurt).

Write a little list in the morning. Easy things - like getting up, getting dressed (don't be a slob - wear something nice, it makes you feel better), if you're Christian pray and read a morning devotion. Plan supper for you and the kids - crock pot meals are great - have those cooking around 11AM or so. Get your finances in order. Don't try to do everything in one day - do insurances one day, do bills (list them) the next, the house/mortgage/rent the next. See what you need to live with.

Clean a room a day. Really clean. You're not doing it for him, you're doing it for yourself. So that you can feel like something has been put back together after the tornado. Maybe make one trip out of the house every day, even for just milk and eggs, or a coffee.

I want you to start working out - just start walking for a half hour a day, if possible. I'm in WI, so it's cold outside. Walk on a treadmill if you have it.

I also want you to find a time you can go to sleep every night. A routine will help you cope with what is going on - you can't control your husband/boyfriend, but you can control many other aspects of your life.

These are difficult things for someone in your situation... I know. Just realize it takes a one-day-at-a-time attitude.