Rednail: the high road

[Painter]

So right now, you're in a state of shock. It's like if someone unexpectedly was murdered. You experience a devastating mix of anger and grief, confusion and disbelief. This is not the time to make decisions about anything, it's even too early to think about what to wear to the funeral. So focus on the small, immediate things - getting through the day, taking a shower, feeding yourself and the kids, getting help, and staying out of contact with WAH until you have a grip on your emotions (which is not expected today or tomorrow).

Dating, divorcing, waiting, reconciling or not - none of those are decisions you can make at this point, and they're not going to be 100% your decisions.

Dating would be using another person to make yourself feel a little better and make your WAH feel jealous, without any regard to the feelings of the person you would use for that purpose.

You called this thread the high road. It's steep and sometimes the oxygen can get low, but it's ultimately the most rewarding one.