"I don't need him and am pretty sure I don't want him. As of now, we have zero connection... He's shown no interest or remorse, disappointment, regret... nothing."

Hi Feyth, given your H's age and what you describe above, I think he is in MLC. I may well have posted this to you before. Given this, your comment about no interest, remorse etc. Will all absolutely be the case for some time.

MLCers have an emotional void for a while. The feel hollow and they try to fill this with 'things' - a Harley, some like mine have an A etc. This continues for some time during 'replay.' They don't know what to do to make themselves feel better and they also think 'we' are the cause of their unhappiness.

All that is happening is about 'them' though and not about 'you.' During MLC they can't sustain healthy relationships. They don't really have anything to give.

Whether you choose to hang on in there is of course up to you and I would encourage you to read widely about MLC and understand what is happening as part of your growth & decision making.

Take care - you're doing really well. Incidentally, I had the opposite. My H decided he desperately DID need to become a DAd again. This time a full time one smile

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus