Mines father never grew up, never could settle down, abadoned his children and family. (Dunno explicitly about an affair but it's an easy assumption). I never met the man, he died in a car crash about 3-4 years into our relationship but I had lunch with H's cousin last week. He asked if I ever met his dad, I said no, and his response was "yes you have." The sad reality is the two things H values most in people (loyalty and strength), are the two things he's completely lacking right now. I was there for the worst years of his life and he abadoned me when my mo got sick.
Ugh, sorry to hijack. I'm glad you have some people around. I'm alone with my puppies.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
I guess the real question we have to ask ourselves moving forward is do we want that person in our lives. My stitch is at least a bit easier to walk away. We weren't technically married (didn't have the money yet to do it the way we really wanted) and aside from 4 fur babies, no kids. As I told my best friend from highschool; I'm pissed and hurt and reevaluating whether I even want him anymore but I also want more than anything for him to ask to come home 😔. And every day is that roller coaster. I get sick to my stomach thinking about packing the last of his things up but I don't know how I can move forward with him acting like he is. NC and living with the OW, probably having the time of his life without any of his home responsibilities. Why would he want to come back.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Rednail, Please start a new thread. Gosh! Your threads move fast!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
