It's really hard to keep going. All the torturous thoughts, the unknowns can consume us.
I think your IC is frustrated with your codependency, us codependents will talk about the other person until we're blue in the face and never mention ourselves. How can we fix ourselves if we know more about the other person than ourselves?
Ive been reading Codependent No More, its a good read. I would encourage you to check it out.
Codependents settle for people. In your case, a probable narcissist and in my case, an alcoholic. And we feel extreme pain when relationships end because we were enmeshed with the other person. I know what you are going through, the intensity of the feelings is awful.
