Rednail: OW confirmed..going dark

[Painter]

You don't have to do anything. The urge you are feeling, is to make the pain go away by doing something. Regardless of what you do - hit the wall, file for D, decide to never talk to him again, etc. - the pain will remain and you have to go through it.

When someone dies - you can't stop caring about them in order to not grieve. Let yourself grieve and know that you will not feel like this forever. It will get better, however horrible it feels right now.

Don't believe anything of what he says to you or others, and only half of what he does. He is not rational or truthful right now. He's lying and cheating on both of you.

2 years ago, my H reunited with a woman he had very strong feelings for 30 years ago. Imagine the power of that, the reminder of youth, the unfinished business. Today, it's over and he realized she wasn't the dreamboat he thought she was.

Hang in there, don't burn any bridges, keep to yourself and your closests friends until you can face the world again.