Can you post some links for threads where Detachment was able to get the marriage to piece again? (Give a guy some hope, please.) There was a thread but when I clicked the links were all dead.
You can look up mozza's list of success stories. I do not keep a log of the various links of situations. I understand you want hope, and we are trying to tell you what works and doesn't work, and you are basically asking us to prove it by showing you threads where this one thing got the couple back to piecing. Maybe it would help encourage you to search out the stories that are in the Piecing section.
Look, every author, program, and forum claims their techniques work. They will produce letters from people who say it worked for them. MWD does the same, in her DR book. At some point, you have got to decide for yourself. We can't continue trying to convince you that DBing is the route to take. You either go with it, or you don't. We have had others who came here wanting us to convince them why they should use the DB methods, and in the meantime they wasted valuable time they could have been applying DB to their situation. I suppose most LBS want to see some examples of happy endings. As you said, so many of the stories have been deleted from the archives. .
Personally, I do not remember one case where the LBS detached, correctly, that did not have positive results form him/her. However, I am not going to tell you that that one act, alone, brought the M to piecing. It plays a huge part, I believe, but it is not the only action the LBS needs to take. You can read countless stories of where the emotional attachment from the LBS helped to push the WS further away.
I hope I do not sound rude, b/c that is not my intentions.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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