Yesterday's gone. Tomorrows not here... (3)

[broke]

Pinn,

I wish I had some good advice for you. I'm new to db'ing so I'm hopeful that a veteran will come along and help you. I'm anxious to see what those with experience say. Because it seems like detaching has caused your W to realize you are a great H and she misses you. I see some things in the text that could be positive, but you know her best and based on your response it seems like you think there's no hope.

I agree you need to validate her feelings that it's been hard and I wouldn't say much about talking to her family (it may come off as defensive). Beyond that I'm not sure if you need to say anything else. Maybe validating her feelings and seeing what she says to "start communicating". I'm hoping you get some experienced db'ers that can tell you the best path to take. Thinking of you.