Hi G. I really feel for you buddy. I know how you feel and it's so difficult.
I know you need support and not to be talked at but at some point you need to accept what's happening
The call was probably the worst thing you could have done and with each of these actions all you are doing is confirming her decision to leave.
G , I get you want this resolved but it can't be right now and maybe never You don't have a choice in this and that's a fact
We all have adversity in our lives and it's unavoidable Your struggling because your whole foundation has been rocked You have control of how you react and that's where your control ends.
G , pull yourself together and accept the marriage is over because it is. Accept that each call and each talk just nails the coffin lid on the marriage shut tighter and tighter
I don't know your W but while she's unique to you her actions follow a pattern seen on here time and time again In her head she's done , she's not married anymore and you are an obstacle to her happiness.
You need to make a decision to let go and work towards that goal You have no choice anyway so acceptance is not only a choice but a finality
I'm sorry this is happening to you family and its so hard to deal with but deal with it you must
Make a choice today and move forward When you get home make your plans to move and don't talk to W about anything but logistics , nothing else The hole you e dug is deep enough and the time has come to stop digging
