GB, I don't know why you persist in following me around on the board and trying to discredit my posts. We obviously do not see eye to eye about some things, but why do you feel you must pop in from time to time to make your "counter points" to what you think I am saying? We know where you stand about exposing affairs. This thread is not about exposure and the tactics you recommend.
The Nice-Guy Syndrome is about a personality type. It is much deeper than just a man who seems nice. If you want to discredit the author of the book, based on his private life, I had prefer you not do it on my thread. I recommend the book b/c it explains the the NGS much better than I could attempt. And perhaps, according to your judgements of Dr. glover, I shouldn't have anything to say, either,........since I am a former WW, IDK. I am not trying to tell men how to be men, I am trying to explain how women react to the negative side of the NGS. When men ask me how they should do this or that.......maybe you see my answer as telling them how to be men, IDK. All I can tell them is from a woman's VP how she will react to his NGS.
I have tried very hard to explain how it is much more than the affair that was happening in the MR, and how a foundation of disrespect, deep resentment, and rebellion is formed before the A comes on the scene. In some cases, there is no affair at the time a newcomer arrives, but his W has all the signs of being ready. But I do not blame a man for his W's infidelity.
This is not meant as a personal challenge to debate, it's only my defense of my thread.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
