Don't get drawn into playing games. The judge will have no time for it and you will look just as bad as W. My H played all kinds of passive-aggressive games with his ex and it backfired on him every time. Nobody can follow the internal, convoluted back-and-forth dealings between spouses, and it's going to wear you out and keep you focused on the conflict.

The core of DBing is to change what doesn't work and do something else. For you, that sounds like setting boundaries and not accepting bs. You have access to the house - you don't need W's or assistant's permission.


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17