Rednail: OW confirmed..going dark

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Red - He is going to absolutely try to "feel you out". He is going to want to be your "friend". Don't let him use your kids as a pawn to get you to talk to him - I think you did great today. I am proud of you. Just stay calm and cool when speaking to him and then cry after. My H did the same thing and he wants to be my friend whenever he is feeling guilty about the OW. Doesn't make him feel remorse and want to come back. So, I say keep detaching, keep acting "as if". Take care of yourself, take care of your kids. I like that your L seems to be giving you good advice not to rush into anything, to breathe and think things through. This is a huge emotional shock and the pain feels physical. Is your mom there yet? I am very glad you seem to already have a L in place and found this site before you found out. I wish I would have done those two things. You are obviously smarter and stronger than you feel right now. Keep on keeping on - you made it through last night and you will put one foot in front of the other and make it every day. It won't be easy but you will! ((hugs))