The start of my happiness 4

[Tyler12]

I believe she was a good partner, as was I. However there were times when each of us were not good partners and each of us were unhappy with it. In my case I bottled up the feeling and brushed it under the rug. In hers she sometimes voiced it, sometimes she didn't. Either way she held onto it closer and let them build until she felt she had enough and moved on. The point is neither of us worked on being a better partner for each other.

In my case I left well enough alone instead of meeting her needs. In her case she was unaware of my needs as I was afraid to rock the boat and disturb the peace, therefore never expressed what I needed.

The question I have for people that acted in similar ways as I did. "Nice guy" actions I guess, and were able to change that about themselves is how? How were you able to overcome the anxiety of expressing your concerns and the feared response to that expression?

I understand te responses i envisioned were not a guarantee, just a worst case scenario type of mentality. You will never know the outcome until you express that feeling or concern and then deal with whatever results. In my case I always feared the worst. That anger and arguments would arise because of my expressed feelings and concerns.