How have you handled the SSM so far? Have you talked about it, argued about it etc? My suggestion is to not make it into a battleground. Once you start having the "sex argument", it becomes a lot harder to deal with as both spouses become more defensive and sensitive about the sitch. Try to approach it with patience, calm and don't attempt to talk about it when you're feel rejected or in anger. I think good communication is a key factor in getting things resolved. All the best.
