Originally Posted By: Rednail
Is it bad that I'm so scared if I go that he will go file for divorce the next day just to get rid of us faster and be done with it.


He can never get rid of the kids. And D is just a piece of paper, it's not going to decide what happens with the two of you.

Right now, he is in a fog from the A. All you can do, is be true to your own values, try to stay calm, try to be the rational and stable one. It's a lot on your shoulders.

A calm request for child support and a schedule is not going to make him go file for D. Not asking is not going to prevent him from doing it. Very little you do can make him do or not do anything - you really have no control of his actions at all, only your own. If anything, it may snap him back to reality a little bit, that he realizes he won't be able to continue eating cake.

*He* is the one who has moved out, started a R with OW, has changed the rules. There are consequences to that, M is a legal contract.

Don't feel bad for still wanting him, those feelings don't go away with a snap of the fingers. You two have a history together, a M, children. He has been processing this for a long time, you just found out.


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17