Hi guys: Thanks for the welcome. As per request, some background:
First of all, sorry about KU, I looked at the wrong bracket. Football's my passion.
Background: Both 40, married 17 yrs, met in college, 2 kids, D 14, S 16. I work 35hr/wk. H works about 55hr/wk at a very physically demanding job. The past year and 1/2 has been very stressful. Found out D had life threatening illness. Glad to say things have worked out and D is back in good health.
That is when things began to change. H and I worried more about D (as we should have) than ourselves. Took up most of my energy. I shortened my work hrs. to deal with D, H increase hrs to pay medical bills. Sex was an afterthought. Now that D is better I want to get back to normal. H doesn't want, need, or is afraid to. H hugs/kisses and tells me he loves me every day. But it very rarely goes any further. We have ML 3 times in the past 8 months.
H does nice little things for me EX: I am horrendous at directions. If I need to go somewhere H will always take time out to map my way or drive with me the first time so I don't get lost, without me ever having to ask him to do this. Just nice stuff like that. But when it comes to sex, like reading the book or gettting on this site....NO WAY. Maybe D's illness put a fear in to him that he can't work out. I don't know. All I know is that I need the close contact. The past 2 yrs have been so bad I just want it better. Does this make any sense? KT
