Wow, STBXH doesn't like boundaries. He told me that he was only working half a day, so I planned to go out with friends in the afternoon. When I texted him about when he'd pick them up, he said no before mid afternoon. I texted him that I understood that he had deadlines, so maybe if next time none of us could keep to our agreed scheduled maybe we could let each other know. I added that I wasn't expecting him to look after kids when it's not his turn, nor should he expects me to put my plans on hold for him.
Well when he turned at the house, he refused to come in, did ask about the girls presents and he said he knew nothing about it. I seek him if he could bring the kids a bit later, then he became very aggressive saying that he looked after them for the week (he didn't his sisters and his daughter did, but I drank a STFU smoothie), then said that he was working late last night ( no he wasn't), that he needed some time for himself!
I can see that he doesn't like me standing my ground. So far everything I have tried has failed! Being friendly, no baby steps, NC/ going dark no changes. I remember in DB book that she was saying that at times the WAS is really done and I can see this for me. He is treating me the same way as his ex partner. I never wanted this. I was hoping that we could stay cordial, unfortunately I won't be the case.
I'll feel my situation had come to an end and there is no chance of R. So I'm carrying on with my life and I'm going to open a new chapter without him.
