Wife has filed for divorce

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I think she is trying to find as many negatives as she can to prove that it was all a big mistake. Saying that, it feels that she wants to build a friendship now but I don't know if it is to keep me on side for when she needs me or if she thinks we could rebuild our relationship from there. At the moment it is all out war until I leave or have some place to go.

She like to be in control and when my brother suggested that I move closer to my new job and sell the house, she freaked out saying that he is always controlling me when it is her that wants control. She also been saying that she doesn't care if the house is sold until he suggested it and she started yelling "He doesn't care if you make your family homeless!"

Lots of contradictions in her behavior.

I used the book during my first separation and the 180 did work to an extent as there was no threat of divorce. My issue is with the last resort technique where it doesn't cover when a divorce is actually in progress and the spouse is hell bent on achieving their goal without seeing the damage it is doing and how resolvable the issues in the marriage are. She will not go to counselling and has just shut the door on our marriage as far as I can see.

I guess I need a more step by step guide to suit my situation.