I know that when she gets her way she will calm down and be civil again.
What will you have to give up, in order for her to get what she wants? How has this worked in the past......long run?
If you are divorced, how will her calming down and being civil again help you? Do you believe if she is calm & civil that you have a chance to become friends and rebuild to the point of maybe staying the divorce or getting remarried?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
