Still crazy after all these years.......

[2Times2Many]

Hi Mirepoi. Just wanted to stop by and see how you're doing.

FWIW, I don't think you are nuts at all for making h move out. We put up with as much as we can, but there comes a point where our (and our families) mental and emotional health has to be the first priority.

I have a similar issue with h thinking he can wander around the house at will when he's here. Generally, he's pretty good but will sometimes say, I have to go downstairs and get so-and-so. It's hard not to follow him and keep an eye on what he's actually doing but I don't want to look like I'm a prison warden keeping tabs on his every movement. It's really sad what they do to our trust in them.

The potential of h and his brother both living with MIL is interesting. I can't imagine that will go well. I would think it would be incredibly difficult for 3 people who have lived apart, living life in their own fashion, to mesh into a compatible living arrangement under the same roof.