Divorce Papers

[TimR]

So as much as I did not want to had to contact W today. S was locked out and needed his wrestling bag for practice. Conversation went like this,
"S is locked out and needs his stuff for practice, I tried to call other S to get the key but he is not answering his phone."

W "I am at the market, I can just run home and let him in."

Me "No there is no reason for that, I.... (thinking) can have him wear old shows"

W "Well if he would pull this Sh!t about riding the bus to your house."

Me "Yeah I am not sure why he does it"

W Well he needs to get his a$$ home.... Why do you sound so pouty?"

Me "Pouty, I am not pouty." (I have to admit S was being very grumpy and had me in frustrated.)

Me "I am not sure why he keeps coming"

More complaining about him coming to my house after school.
Then WHAP!!! BANG!! SNAP! Old W gets on the phone and we talk about her being sick and her week at work. She actually finishes at the market, runs home and then runs the 20 miles out of her way to bring his shoes.

I in turn sent a thank you text and that S was now in a better mood.

These swings are something. At least when we steered the conversation away from the kids and S being with me she did her own 180. When the conversation went about her week at work and being sick I was sure to empathize and validate that she has probably been working so hard she ran herself down and weakened her immune system. I just wish I was not the one to have to initiate contact. So I guess I am still failing at not pursuing.