"Ciluzen - what is your theory about running into your H on the weekends? That's interesting...."
My H has told me and others that he gets up, goes to work (staff report that he is same cheerful easy-going guy to clients), goes home to his little apartment (almost no furnishings) at night, eats microwaved burritos or canned soup, listens to the radio or watches one of the three channels he gets on his TV (still hasn't gotten a tv package), and then goes to bed. On weekends, he skis, goes to our vacation home to watch tv (our other satellite receiver is there) and putter around (its a large multi-bedroom waterfront house...lots to do). In the summer I'm sure it will be the same, but he'll be out in the boat instead of skiing. When he skis he sometimes has company of friends and will have that in the summer (large get togethers a few times) , as well, but not often as most of our friends (I forgot...HIS friends) have kids in multiple sports. It is actually a rather lonely life most of the time. A few times he's mentioned thinking of asking me to dinner. Or a movie. He hasn't though. Just the impromptu "ski dates"
I see him when I'm skiing and he makes it a point to "date" me. Fun things are more fun with others. Food is more fun with others. And I'm familiar. But he doesn't HAVE to...he controls the situation and can leave me when he wants. For me, I get to show him only positive interactions and my 180s and leave him with that to think about.
As for this summer,...I may be D or in the thick of mediation. But I will be busy. Very BUSY. We'll see what happens. But I've decided to move on and not worry about him so much. I'm feeling the tiniest bit of detachment...finally. My door is still cracked open, but I will be VERY. VERY. BUSY.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
