Not sure where to stand

[Sparkls]

The vast majority of the time, it's easy for me to do. I just don't quite know how to react when he asks for things because a. He knows I'm going to give them to him, that's who I am. I tend to avoid conflict at all costs But b. He felt like I was always trying to parent him so if I tell him "No," it's just as bad. Damned if I do, damned if I don't, so I errored on the side of being the kind of person I want to be. I don't want to be his parent, I wanted him to step up and take responsibility and he seldom did.

Gah I can see all the issues now that it may be too late to address them. But he chose to have an affair rather than call me out on my bullsh*t.