I am sorry, really sorry and you well know I saw it with my own eyes in my sitch.
Time to let go of all the rules. Time to do nothing. Time to stay quite and work on that pain. Time to cry. Time to pamper yourself. Time to give yourself time.
Don't do anything now. Don't talk to him. If he insists, get that bloody phone and very slow, very calm, very polite, tell him to leave you alone and respect you. That you don't want his calls right at this moment and you just need a break from it all.
Say it with conviction so he will understand you not in a mood to play games at this moment.
Honey, I wish I could be there with you and give my shoulder to your cry. It will get easier with time. It's not easy anytime but you start making priorities in your life and things have different directions.
Do not leave your house, don't move from it at any time.
Be careful with your kiddos, they can sense things miles away, so be discrete with harsh words and anger.
I was not well, and have lots going on in my own sitch right now. Yes, many things go around and around.
