t seems so strange that her dad can change from moment to moment like that, ripping up a check you gave him, and duct taping his wallet closed when it comes to helping his daughter.
If you knew his FOO, you would be able to connect the dots. He grew up in a household where it was expected to be completely self supporting when the time came (that time was arbitrary, in the eyes of the beholder). For him, it happened to occur when he graduated high school. He left Montana for Arizona, and his dad told him when he was packing up his truck to head south, "You're on your own now. So don't call me for help." He didn't come home for the summer, but took classes, since that line was crystal clear.
I always wondered why someone would say that to their kid, and always felt bad for him. He worked a job nearly full time and went to school. I don't know when he had time to do anything else (though I know he did, because I've heard the crazy stories), since he graduated from college with a degree in electrical engineering in a little over 3 years.
I think he's conveniently forgetting how much he didn't appreciate that sentiment from his folks? I mean mine weren't planning on me coming home to live with them for the rest of my life, but they were always willing to support me in my endeavors - however it worked itself out.
In the end, I think it's how each of us was parented. I happen to like my way better. I seriously doubt that living with me and her sister for the rest of her life is in her master plan, so why be a hard a$$ about it? Her school's career fair is next week, and I think it's all good. Her adviser told her when she declared her major that chem e's go last in recruiting. I think she'll be fine.
Besides, I love my kiddo and want her to have a safe place she knows when she needs it. Even if it's a new, strange place LOL.
Feeling any better, Ginger?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I seriously doubt that living with me and her sister for the rest of her life is in her master plan, so why be a hard a$$ about it? Her school's career fair is next week, and I think it's all good. Her adviser told her when she declared her major that chem e's go last in recruiting. I think she'll be fine. 