Back again 8 years later

[daybyday]

Just thinking back on some of the things my WAW has said ,and in the manner that she has said them, makes me feel that she might be taking a little joy in seeing me be upset. I know she has said "I don't want to hurt you". But it almost feels punitive in her tone. Like when I asked her if indeed she was going to move out as she had earlier said. Her reply was "Yes, I think I will stick to my plan. I know it's not the answer that you want to hear". Kind of like saying "aha! take that f-er". Or when I asked if she was going to stay in the downstairs bedroom, her reply was " Yeah, I think it's good for us right now". Another "take that f-er". I would bet that the power that comes with ILYB is a perk that wayward spouses enjoy. Maybe not all, but i bet most do. They know that we have very little leverage other than detachment. Therefore they play their games.