Totally understand Fo! But...what do you mean about the difference w/anger and spew? He may be mirroring you. I've learned that happens, often in more subtle ways than we think, esp. when it comes to criticizing. It proves to him you're doing to him what you don't want him to do to you: focus on his 'issues' and only see those things. You're just as impatient (or possibly condescending)... at the very least you're impatient about where the M is. And I totally get that. I've learned to recognize that (sometimes)... I'm most frustrated when I expect things to be better by now. A year is soooo long. He does feel under attack. And so do you. I'm stuck too... sigh.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
