Rednail 3.0- Is there OW now?!

[broke]

A couple things to learn from my mistakes:

1) absolutely put nothing derogatory, mean, nasty etc in writing. No texts or emails. My H printed all my nasty texts and gave them to his L and the kids counselor. I looked horrible when my H was one cheating!

2) make appts with lawyers ASAP. It's a conflict of interest once you've interviewed a L, your H can't use that person even if you choose not to (at least in my state). Find best ones you can and interview 3-4.

3) you should definitely go dark because I was an angry raging lunatic and sabotaged db'ing when I decided that I DID want to try to save it. Which you can always decide to later on if you do.

I'm so sorry! Betrayal by your H and best friend is devastating. Please find some people to come be with you today. Thinking of you.

[Rednail]

He is ALREADY texting me..

Did the kids nap? Who the F cares, if you really wanna know you would BE HERE.

I ignored it. When DO I KNOW what kids questions to respond to.

I feel like that is more of a ..are you really going to ignore me text.

[Rednail]

Brook, I PROMISE I WILL WRITE NOTHING BAD. THE WORST I did was call her and leave her a voicemail saying that she should know he was sleeping with us both at the same time and that I know about the affair.

I have a L I really really like. I WILL be using him when the time comes. I have to get a job and figure out my housing and figure out what I really want to do.

He said he isn't giving up seeing her, so I mean there is no point in trying to even think about an R.

I do not know what to do. She is gorgeous, blonde, no stretch marks, huge boobs, huge butt. Seriously GORGEOUS and then there is me. I have stretch marks, saggy skin, I am def not as pretty and like 2x her size.

I do not think I can compete with her in anyway.

[Thornton]

Their R won't last, I'm telling you now.

She just got out of a marriage and he is having an affair. Their relationship is built on a shaky foundation.

I'll be shocked if they end up long term.

[Rednail]

I hope so thornton..I hope so. I will say I still love him but I need space. My family is shocked and want me to go file today or monday but I'm not ready. I have to be smart and now this emotional I'm irrational and crazy.( at home in my head crazy not like really crazy)

[Thornton]

Yes, wait until you can process some things in your mind before making a hasty decision.

Your feelings might change several times in the near future.

[Rednail]

I have no idea what to do right now.

[Thornton]

Breathe. Thats all you do right now, breathe.

You just took a big shock to your system, just breathe for right now.

Can you call some girlfriends to come over and visit?

[Painter]

I have no idea what to do right now.

I am so very, very sorry. That is horrible, such a betrayal from both. But your gut feeling was right on.

Do nothing. Just breathe, talk to the L about your options and still do nothing. There is no rush.

I agree with not answering non-essential questions about the kids. Scheduling and serious illness is all you need to communicate at this time.

(((hugs)))

And see a doc to check for STDs. It was the first thing I did.

[NYGal]

DO. NOT. PANIC. (Any more than you already have.) Don't file yet. This affair is likely to fail, but it takes time. Hold on to the M for now, but like the rest of us you'll have to start moving on with your life. You do need a lawyer, but DO NOT MAKE ANY HASTY DECISIONS. You will feel different tomorrow and different again on Monday. Not necessarily better, unfortunately, but you will have glimpses of better times soon.

I am so, so sorry. It's got to hurt like he!!.

Also, go dark and don't respond to him. Let him sit with this. He doesn't need to know anything now.

DO NOT RESPOND TO HIM.