1) absolutely put nothing derogatory, mean, nasty etc in writing. No texts or emails. My H printed all my nasty texts and gave them to his L and the kids counselor. I looked horrible when my H was one cheating!
2) make appts with lawyers ASAP. It's a conflict of interest once you've interviewed a L, your H can't use that person even if you choose not to (at least in my state). Find best ones you can and interview 3-4.
3) you should definitely go dark because I was an angry raging lunatic and sabotaged db'ing when I decided that I DID want to try to save it. Which you can always decide to later on if you do.
I'm so sorry! Betrayal by your H and best friend is devastating. Please find some people to come be with you today. Thinking of you.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
