Thanks for going through that with me. I need a wake up. It is all too unreal for me.
I looked into the Stockdale paradox. Yes I can see I am the eternal optimist. I will try and follow this plan of taking care of the problems now while still having the knowledge that I will get through this.
I do have a history of doing nothing with the hope that it will all get better. Of thinking that by Christmas she will come around. She didn't. then I think after her brothers wedding she will come around. I can see how flawed this thinking is. It stalls me from taking action that I need to take.
I will take the action needed.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016