Time to L up and go dark, Red.

That's an ugly thing to have to find out, trust me, I know!

I will tell you, though, that you now have the power to "let go" of whatever emotional baggage he dropped on you because THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Whatever he said to you, told you about what wasn't working etc. is all bull...

This is his issue and none of it is your fault. Do you understand?

You can beat your head against a wall asking "why?" and you will, but don't let him see it for a second.

He wants to have his cake and eat it too, but now you know... Now he gets to find out what losing a family really looks like.

Don't call, text, e-mail. Don't answer his calls or texts, either.

Most importantly, get hold of a L ASAP to see what your options are... As a stay at home mom, you have a lot of them...