Not sure where to stand

[Sparkls]

So I'm still struggling with what to do with this damned TV. We bought it together but we also now have 4 tvs in the house (due to my mothers passing). There's no reason to not let him borrow it other than I almost feel like this is a test to see where I am. Old me would've happily let him have it as I certainly don't need it. But right now, this feels like continuing to let him cake eat and to ask for things one by one from me to ensure I'm still waiting for him. Even the phrasing of his text was weird (May I use one of the TVs there for my xbox). I know his video games are important to him (it's how he decompresses) so I don't want to come across as not appreciating that that's important for him (appreciation was one of our issues) but I also don't want to be over-accommodating because he is off in la-la wayward land and frankly, doesn't deserve any of my kindness.