I agree with otw, I contacted OW's husband and it accelerated the filing for divorce and my H bought a house. I don't think it is a good idea to contact the OW in my humble opinion.

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16