Yeah I told him once, I will be a coparent and polite but we are NOT going to be bff's like he thinks. HE wants me to still come to holidays, birthdays, everything even while divorced. Like best friends! That is why I'm like should I be more distant or not. His parents want the same for me to come to christmas, thanksgiving etc as his divorced wife. I'm like ummm no.
Today he called to re-ask permission to come over(boundaries are working so far), I said yes. I tried getting off the phone he asked why I always try to rush off the phone. I'm like oh, is there something else you want to talk about? He was like..well no but you always rush off.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Ugh Red, I definitely think you're on the right path with getting the distance and setting boundaries. The thing about friendship is you just don't know what the future holds there yet. Of course he wants to be besties, HELLOOOO! Look at your fine self, how you've handled all of this. That is a compliment!
I'm in the same situation, as my WAH is a good man despite the alien invasion. Even when hurtful things come out of his mouth, they hurt because that's how I receive it. To him, it's objective. It's like they're not operating in a place of feelings because it's their decision. If it were ours, I'm sure we'd be the same.
I say stick to your boundaries, but don't shut out the idea of a friendship yet. What if in the future you do become great friends, and do share some aspect of your lives together. With children, you always will have some sort of relationship. Life is too short for it to be a bitter, callous one. Too short.
I am so very sorry. My H has been having a PA since July. Please reach out if you need anything. If you are anything like me, the anger and hurt will be overwhelming. I hope you can have a good friend or family member come over and sit with you today and tonight....
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
