I think Vapo is right in your situation, you should definitely Detach if she is treating you so poorly, if she is not paying you a salary.

Don't sabotage anything though, because that may come back to bite you later in divorce. Keep your cards close until when you need to use them.

Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016