I guess respect and admiration are the first steps to winning this battle?
I would say so.
Your W's love language is probably words of affirmation. On the other hand, I have seen a few people who thrive on praise. They get so centered on themselves that they almost become demanding of praise. They are like a vampire sucking you dry.
I have a relative who has very low self-esteem and depends upon others to make her feel good about herself. If anyone ever says one little negative word, she's through with them. If you praise her, she comes alive. But she doesn't know how to build her own self value, and what she gets from others is not self-sustaining.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
