Eyes forward Sotto..

[mleigh4]

Hi Sotto. I can imagine those conversations can not feel good. Remember, they don't know what you know about MLC. Your H is not in a healthy loving R with this person, it is an escape from his internal pain. Maybe next time you can say upfront no H talk? I have done that several times and they understand.

It's easier to see this, like Hawho said, when you are around the MLC'er. They have so little to give, their world revolves around themselves. Don't let your imagination get you Sotto and remember, this is not about you.

I will tell you what I think about my own sitch at times. Like you said, I too consider myself to be a very nice person, loveable, fun, caring, not perfect but overall a desirable mate. I honestly think that it confuses my H, to be around me, to see this but continue to feel confused about how he feels. I would guess your H may think the same. His mind is not clear right now.

I too often think we have drifted too far to find our way back and feel headed towards closure. But I believe, being who you are, you will be just fine.