I Think it's Way Too Late

[CWOL]

I doubt that she would turn on me, at the same time - and the reason I wanted to see them to say goodbye is they will be inviting my W and eventually the OM over for holidays. At this point I'm not sure I can detach like that. Certainly not by this Easter, which will probably be my first test. They will need to come and get my Mother, and I'm not sure she'd want to be there either.

My MIL and FIL were the main catalyst in getting WW back to me 17 years ago, when she first had the EA with OM. Unfortunately, FIL has passed away since, but I still felt MIL would be morally upset by her daughter's behavior. She was, she even called the OM up and chewed him out. She told WW if she contacts OM again she would "kill herself." But all it took was a day of tears by WW to turn her and brainwash her that she's been mistreated for 18 years (REALLY? She forgot the part about how the EA restarted 9 years ago). I was really disappointed by this.

As long as you don't leave yourself vulnerable, I don't see any harm in giving MIL the facts, if only to let people know the truth instead of your wife's lies. But do not rely on them to help you in the end, as they WILL turn against you when push comes to shove. Also, do not give them any hints about the strategy you will be applying whether legally or emotionally. It will be used against you later.